Friday, March 18, 2011

The Single Girls' Nightmare

I don't think a marriage can thrive if you take your most intimate problems and make them internet fodder. I am married. But to be honest it has taken me a long time to wrap my mind around that I am no longer single. Not in a adulterous kind of way. More in a social leper manner. Up until recently, even with my husband by my side, I felt the wafting of inferiority blow when I saw an obviously committed couple come my way. I had that shy, Doby cringe imagining they would shoo my single self away like a stray dog.

My singledom traumatized me. For many dateless years I fell into the public relations machine that was the 'happy couple". They were who I strived to be, and while I am in a very happy, committed and loving relationship the programming of being single was something that has taken about 2 yrs to get over.

This post is brought to you by the letters W, T and the letter F. My breakthrough has made me want to reach out to you my single friend and let you know that the ASPCA will not be picking you up shortly. You are not a harlot, whore or a bitch because you dress cute and you are by yourself when the diseased organism known as "the couple" walks by. Don't be afraid to hold your head up high when you are at the event as the only single person at a couple's table.

You are worth so much more than what you see. Let the women be jealous and the men lust after you. They are all jealous of you, and you have no reason to be jealous of them.

1 comment:

ajlounyinjurylaw said...

Very inspiring and brave reflection.